Monday, February 22, 2010

Who Does Not Speak Te Language Of LOVE – Valentine Day Special


This post was deliberated to be written n posted here on Valentine’s Day…
But, right after intimating close friends abt an impending post on this Day of this type, it took me over 2 weeks to settle on te content of the post.. hahahha
Valentine’s Day passed by…Leaving me in te think-bed wit out any clue about te content of te post .. I guess.. I am really not good at writing something on this Subject…
I Guess, te absence of a girl-Friend in my life has it’s toll fr good (discussed later on te post)…My own inexperience has definitely sprouted here… I am fr te first time falling short of Content…

A Quick Note to all my readers – This post here is based on my experience and my outlook.. Love is indeed multifarious… And, for evy individual their manner of Love n existence is prime.. I wud not want anyone to derive any similarities or a meaning out of this post….This post is meant only fr Happy readingThank You fr UR cooperation..


“ Who does not speak te Language of Love… “ .. I guess Evyone does …
The Love b/w two people meeting out of circumstances in life’s Journey.. And, then they choose to cling on to each other in rest of their Journey of Life… No matter wat Credentials they both carry...
I am unquestionably in full support for all such genuine Lovers.. who make such decisions.. and live a successful life thereafter… Love has that unified power which dismantles evy Caste,Religion,Status,Language ect..ect.. It ll break all such barriers and Make World a better place to Live… Love has te power to unite us together as human beings… and which prompts us to fight for the uplift of te society and people fr good… 

First, we all need to Love our family and then our kins and friends… That caring attitude towards each other sud prevail… and thus make world a better place to live…And, it is only possible wit Love… Love processes that power to glue evything scattered… It is out of love fr Other’s which prompt people to fight fr justice fr som1 meek …. Love is indeed diverse and cannot be confined to one type

We meet a lot of people evyday… and we begin to maintain certain relationship wit lot of people whom we like or whom we perceive to be friends…I find no harn in such relationship… of course friendship is a superset of such relationships…

But, wen we slowly give this relation a makeover from Friendship to Love-Ship obviously not to evy1..haha ...but to one special person..  te whole genre of things change… This behavior is quite common and it is prevalent in this society.. . Or sometimes deliberately befriend som1 jus because you ve an attraction towards them…and wud like to establish a relationship… because of varied other reason…
Love-Ship is Never witout Friendship..”… I guess, definitely most wud agree on this,…

“Love is Blind” and “You Fall In Love”…
Let me tell u this truth here… wen in Love.. most of times.. U R definitely not attracted to Him/Her because they are beautiful, captivating, intelligent, well-settled, successful, charismatic,… or all of worldly mesmerizing n false attraction…

We tend to Love som1 because they fill te empty space in Us… so that our life is complete wit them onboard..  U sud ve observed.. most of genuine love couple never make a good pair to talk-about
But , they are in love because each one helps in fulfilling te emotional gaps in each other’s Life..

Even if UR’s is a Arranged Marriage( I don find any harm in either ).. Pls choose a guy/girl who wud fill te emotional space in UR life… don ever go on looks, status, success, intelligence alone.. all this can be attained or earned later in life.. wat’s Imp is, if He/She is able to fill that emotional space.. having a command over you and a clear understanding of te kind of person and te things you value in life..

We all are emotional beings… and ours is a societal world.. Which invariably does not easily agree on Love marriages or Live-in relationships…
But, if you really think you ve found that right guy/girl.. and you are also confident parents on both te sides wud agree for UR marriage.. then pls go grab te chance..
U are all mature adults.. and definitely ve te capability to foresee things… Use Ur wits and please make sure u don put UR Parents and loved ones in trouble because of this new confinement (relationship)…
Afterall, evy couple wants to stay united all ther life legally…of course wit parental assistance.. hahha
My only wish… evy Live-in relationship sud end in Marriage and  not breakup…
Most Imp thing concerned is te Parental Approval.. After that, evything is on te Rocks… hahah

Trust Me, I wud not propose a girl.. if I knew I wud not end up getting her to marry me.. . And , I am definitely not a kind who wud simply waste my time n space on something that wud never be on my plate ever.. ahhahh .. Certain relationships get pointless wen we take them causal..
The current genre does not mind te no. of  people they get close n emotional wit…
But, I am in for definite life.. not for a life lived wondering… so sud all my readers be…

We leave is such a world.. Where evything is fast based… fast-food.. ready made supplies.. made to order things.. Customized life.. ect..ect..
“We are all running … none is walking…”.. hahahh
Nobody has time to talk.. Nowadays even posters say “walk n talk” … hahahh

Wen te current genre is accustomed to this kind of fast paced life.. They are even more faster in terms of falling prey to false relationships… te kind of life they live really leaves me more worried n concerned…
Mutliple failed relationships, causal sex, drugs, alcohol, “Dare to Date”, “Emotinal Athaychar”.. all becoming fashion …
But, at te end of the day…I wud not be bothered unless it is som1 from my friends or relative circuitry who is involved in such engagements…
Definitely I ll give free advice to my acquaintances.. and again it is left to them to value it or not.. Because, at te end of day… each one is Master n student of their own self…

Obstacles in te way of Love Marriage ….
It is very unlikely that U ll end with som 1 U LOVE… though u wud ve been in a relationship witout an insight of wat is Coming.. Nowadays LOVE Marriage is governed by various factors in terms of Materialistic accessibility, Caste Equality, Status worth, Language compatibility and ofcourse Religious identity
Our’s is Societal country.. societal people.. all wit societal Mindset… this Is much of a worry…But, wat can be done.. this is how our society wants us to be…
Most parents want ther sons and daughters to be married off to som1 pertaining to same frequency of living (in terms of te aforesaid criterion…) not because they want it.. but because society wants them to…

Only in te closet do we boast of this independent Living.. but, on a broader front we all stick to our conservative roots .. valuing our cultural and societal norms more than our life…
Wit par with this.. My parents included are very conscience of their son’s decision when it comes to Marriage… But, I am sure.. My parents can be persuaded.. hahah
The time to persuade has not yet come.. because I am not into any relationship now… hahah
It might take som time fr me to be lucky.... or my parents might deliberately push me into one… hahah

According to te kind of Love Life current genre Live… I ve categorized into…

The first kind .. and te most prevalent one are te kind of people who involve in casual relationship either emotionally and physically… these are te ones who don value te deeper connotation of LOVE..  for this category of people it is jus te passing of moment.. and how opportunistic they are to their carnal desires.. All their Life, they ve been chasing te hunt of som1 else’s prey… Life has given them enough means n time to dupe around people’s mind and manipulating TRUE LOVe..  I really pity such people.. Living such meaningless life…  

The second kind.. is that sect of community who ve actually been in a troubled and failed love relationship earlier and ve learnt smarter ways to shun te same.. . Walking out of a love relationship is never easy...when it is True.. But, having felt cheated and misguided by love.. they are stronger than before and never fall prey to the first kind discussed only because they ve a Heart which pumps blood… Atlest they shall be loyal to som2 filling te gap in te later part of life…

The third kind.. True love.. wat does it take to be in a true relationship ?…Never cheating on each other..Standing for each other in times of adversity…Let go all their personal desire in life to be succumbed by Love..Caring and nurturing te love b/w them to make it everlasting..And, definitely want to get married and live a successful life... And, cherish their love fr each other till death..

My counsel, to all te people who ve Loved fervently that special Person and later they left You in order to setup their Life wit som1 else… If they ve ditched U… it is time fr U to drain them and move on in life,.. Similar to a scene in “Jab We Met”… Burn & flush te photo wit all te memories… I am sure.. shahid wud ve done te same thing in real life also.. wen Kareena ditched him to marry a padmashree Saif ali khan… hahahahh … I am not sure wat padmashree means after our actor receiving it… today shahid a better man and is taking “Chance pe Dance” classes with … we all knw it,… hahahha
People,We ve only one life.. and pls don make som hard decisions wit UR life because of this bad experience.. I Knw, they might ve been the world fr U at som point of time.. but, since it is their decision to move out of te relationship.. Jus realize they aren’t that Lucky.. to get a person like U… definitely self immolate is not te answer…
On a Humor front “ if Gita leaves, catch Sita.. find Gita in Sita.. make sure Sita is not that Gita type.. else leave Sita and catch Mamtha…. “ hahahhahha... i am jus joking here.. 
Let me tell u this truth..” Evything that we ve acquired after Birth.. evy Habit.. evy LifeStyle.. evy Emotion.. evy feelings… Can Can always be molded to suit Our Taste and moved on.. “ .. I hope I am clear wit wat I am saying…
Also, Let us not be partial wit LOVE…
All that you like and identify in that special person.. try to find te same in UR partner destined fr you.. World is a huge place wit variety of people.. whom to choose to share life is only in UR hands.. provided UR family and close ones give you that freedom… ahahha … Never be partial wit love.. Love UR new partner or lover in life wit te same fervent and vigor that you wud ve otherwise bestowed on that special som1… In Life, only lucky people get that share of bread.. hahahh

The fourth kind.. I am single.. And I am happy…
I fall into this category (as of now) .. hahah … There cud be various factors which make people take such decisions to stay away 4m all this Live-in relationship and live-in partner thing …
1.      Never found that person yet
2.     Parental Pressure… and Societal norms..
3.     I am Busy wit my life…
4.     Family will never concur… We are conformist wen it comes to Marriage..
5.     He/She is not a serious person… and I ve no time fr such people… though He/She might me te 1..
6.     Scared of getting cheated..
7.     Having seen a lot of love failure’s in te surroundings they grow…
8.     No time fr such engagements..
9.     None proposed them… hahah
10.  They are scared to propose.. because of fear of rejection..hahah
11.  I believe in Arranged Marriage Only… hahahh
12.  Still Waiting… hahahh
13.  He/She is definitely not that type… y waste time trying..
14.  Wat He/She might think of me… we are good friends… hahahah
15.  I think other guy is better than this one..  I am confused… hahahahh.. this is very funny…
16.  Wat if He/She is already in a relationship ?? .. why sud I com in b/w them..
17.  He/She is not interested in me…

I can go on listing such factors… hahahha
But, these kind of people are te most blessed of te lot… trust me, inability is itself a blessing somtimes..
Believing in God n showing a true reflection of good human beings..  te foundation of love itself is care… if we do not care fr other’s in te first place.. then we ll never be able to maintain a good relationship in future.. after marriage.. hahha .. And people who belong to this type,.. Evything ll be more comprehensible and simple after som time during your old age… wen u sit beside that som1 ordained fr U.. then u ll definitely say to URself… Thank God.. I did not propose Him/Her… hahahhah … May God bless You All…

Afterall, only one life.. and life is a like a chemistry lab… it is up to you to experiment..
But , it is wise to ve a clear understanding of te chemicals you are using… it might result in good by-product or explosion also…hahah.. Again, To experiment or not.. it is UR choice..

And, finally to conclude my post here…
I wud like to answer one easy question all my friends ask… friends meaning close friends only.. hahha
Why till date You don ve a girl-friend or live –in partner.. ??

This is my blog.. n blogs are meant to divulge truth.. nothing but te truth… here is te reason behind that secret…hahha
Mine is a struggling Life.. hahhah .. Som of my close friends knw it…
Evything I do… running a race in life, role as house-captain in school, securing position as a student, securing a rank in CET, securing a job in placement, getting my Visa approved.. ect .. ect.. I am never Lucky te first time.. it cud be because I am not that competent…hahah..
I ve suffered Inferiority complex during my initial phase of life( I admit it here.. my close school friends and teachers knw it ) and this has definitely impacted my life and Outlook…
But, now I have grown a lot.. I now ve te ability to be more judgmental and perceive things even before it occurs in my life and it’s impact… I ve a clear understanding of wat I need n wat I don’t need…I don Care wat others think of me wen I do certain things… For me, my conscience is prime.. . I don believe in saving fr tomorrow, I live fr today only.. i don belive in rituals.. I am not religious nor superstitious, I value each one’s identity and respect evy1’s privacy.. I ll not interfere in any1’s life unless called for.. I ll certainly voice my opinions against injustice… but only if I sense if it is needed.. ,I ve good sense of humor (known 4m friends).. I am never serious concerning any matter in my life.. I take life as it comes and don bother to correct much.. hahah
But, how is all this related to me not having a live-in partner ..??
Let me answer this.. which girl wud want a loser like me to be her live-in partner ??... hahahh
Always, evy1 wants ther partner to be well-settled and be independent.. be cool.. be charming.. ect..ect.. atleast this is true wit te genre of people I move around….
And, quite honestly I am running this race in life.. not having any time for such activities.. Evy stage in my life I ve had several responsibility governing my parents, society and myself not really finding time and space for such activities..
Wenever, I wud ve felt of let loosing my chord.. My family and other issues in life showcase a live streaming in front of my eyes…I wud drop such an idea immediately…
I am happy not fallen into any fast relationship.. good fr me.. definitely good fr other’s…
Today’s genre.. te expectations are very high and ever demanding…I am sure I ll not be meeting any of their prospects…  so, y simply Try…
But, I am sure somday..  I ll find one.. or atleast my parents wud be more judgmental on this.. Hahhah
And, no doubt their have been few girls walking into my life… whom I found suitable or they found me suitable.. hahhahah… but, always I wud shy away 4m such things.. hahah
As, I already said… I wud never move around a pointless relationship… Even in future, som girl happen to walk into my life.. and if I find her compatible wit me... then I ll make sure I marry her…
First, I ll talk to her parents and my parents… and if both te sides are agreeable, then I wud progress wit that relationship… And, definitely I ll put-forth on my blog here fr te world to watch… hahahh

This is wher I end my post…
Happy Valentine’s day to all te people in a committed relationship.. and fr others who wish to get tangled soon..I wish them good Luck…
And, my category of people can celebrate their Valentine’s day wit Parents and close friends.. as I did this valentines day… haahha

Tuesday, January 19, 2010

My First Job – Construction Worker - DELL

My Cousin is a Construction Site Contractor… He is in this field close to 5 Years now…
It was during my 4th semester Holidays…wen my Cousin approached me for working fr Him… I wud previously spend lot of time discussing wit my Cousin regarding his Work.. and te kind of Challenges faced… Also, gave my consent to work wit Him.. wenever he wud call…

To be frank.. wen he invited me to work.... I was thrilled n filled with delight…
My first job.. My first Career Path.. My first of evy thing concerned with financial security.. needed fr survival.. etc..etc..

Construction Site on a broader scope is involved with all the works.. beginning 4m laying of te foundation fr the Building to the final Painting n Finishing..

My Cousin’s was an Electrical Contract…
Profile of a Electrical Construction Worker in Construction Site involves..
1)   Cable line Laying
2)   Earth Strip – removing the Bend and laying
3)   Grounding and laying te earth strip 4m te Generator n DB(Distribution Box)
4)   DB to Switch-Socket Wiring
5)   DB to Sub-DB wiring
6)   Switch-socket Fixing
7)   Tray laying
8)   Routing te Cable to n fro Generator n DB

While, at Dell I was involved in all these jobs..

During te start of the job, te co-workers would teach me te technique involved and te skill required for execution of a particular Job…
Though, most of te work involved manual labour.. som involved use of technique and tools.. I had to grasp each of the jobs and get-along with all te Co-workers immediately…

I must say, te co-workers were very supportive and always Helped me in knowing te technicality Involved in doing a particular Job…
Also, It did not take much time to make new friends.. Most of them hails from Kerala.. and I was soon to befriend them fr Good.. J

I would like to recount one small instance occurred during one of those days of work which impacted me a lot…

It was a Saturday Morning.. I and one of co-worker Sanjeesh was asked to drill holes in Earth-Strip…
We were to lay te Earth-Strip connecting the Main DB to the earth…
The earth Strip straightening and drilling holes with proper measurement is one of the toughest job to do….
I was using the Drilling machine to Drill the holes in the earth strip while Sanjeesh was holding te Earth-Strip Firm to the Ground with his bare hands.
Usually, we are advised to wear hand gloves to protect our hands.. But, that fateful day, Sanjeesh preferred not to… as we had very few Earth-strip to be drilled holes on…

During, midcourse of the work…
The earth Strip moved from it’s place and rotated along the palm of Sanjeesh tearing it apart… the cut was few centimeters deep….
Blood started flowing out.. from his hand..
I immediately stopped the drilling machine,.. and started running fr Help (we were working on the open land along the fence of the company… far away 4m the main store house… )

But , that was not to happen…
Sanjeesh, was reluctant to send me fr getting help… he told me, the contractor would fire him if they came to knw abt him not taking safety precaution while using the tools..
He asked me not to vendor fr Help.. as he was scared of losing the job..
Also, he rubbished te injury by saying it was a small cut and would be heal fast.. and did not need any medical attention…
He asked me fr my handkerchief… which he used it to cover the wound..
Then immediately, asked me to continue wit work,, 

Sanjeesh was earning close to INR 6ooo per month… he sends home INR 3000.. because he had a dependent family.. and the rest would go in accommodation , food and travel.

Friends, ther is lot of people suffering to meet life’s ends… Like Sanjeesh…
Now, I was recently informed by my cousin.. Sanjeesh left fr Dubai to work....he is working as a construction worker to take care of his dependent family…
May the Almighty God Bless Him…


Compared to Sanjeesh, Our Lives are really better Off…
Always, Thank God fr the same.. and Help n Never Hurt AnyOne..